Notes from Class 10, Nov 26, 2013
The Ven. Thay Chuc Dai instructed the class.
This class combined the topics Husband to Wife; Wife to Husband and Friends to Yourself; Yourself to Friends. Thay Dai decided to combine topics so we can end the class on Dec 3.
We reviewed each of the five ways husbands and wives should minister to each other as they appear in the sutra. Class discussion focused primarily on the importance of being faithful in relationships. When discussing ministering to friends, the discussion focused primarily on the importance of treating others as you would treat yourself and looking after each other’s welfare.
Discussion turned to the passing away of the human body. Thay Dai pointed out that as the body moves to the final passing away, we are alone. It is only us in our body. The life of craving that we have lived is going away. It is best to build your karma every day. Husbands and wives, friends and companions, support each other in this life, but at the time of passing we are ultimately on our own, with the karma we have influenced by how we have lived our life.
Thay Dai reminds us to say “thank you” every day. He reminded us that non-self is nirvana. If you think only about yourself, you are unhappy. Take care of others to make yourself happy. When you are non-self, you are doing things for others, such as family and friends.
Thay Dai continued by reminding us that when we talk with others about our practice the most important thing is for us to recognize our audience in determining at what level we discuss our practice. We should not emphasize the words “Buddhism” and “Buddha” nor should we say things like “you have to do this” or “you have to do that”. Rather, we should discuss our practice in the terms we are familiar with at the level we feel our audience will be able to understand our meaning. We should not criticize other religions.